Unlocking Magnetic Confidence: 6 Secrets You Need to Know

Developing confidence, let alone magnetic confidence, may seem like a far fetched idea, but it in fact is a skill that anyone can learn and cultivate. As someone who used to struggle with insecurity, people-pleasing, and self-sabotage, I know firsthand how transformative it can be to build a magnetic sense of self-assurance.

Having been born into an Assyrian Christian family, and being first born - and female at that - my life and who I was going to be was pretty much pre-determined before I emerged from my mother's womb.

For a long time, I based my identity on external factors like family, society, culture, and religion, rather than tuning into my true inner self. It wasn't until I began listening to that whisper that I was shushing to be digestible, liked by others, and a good girl, that I realized what it was to connect with my soul and live authentically and fearlessly from it.

As a result, I began to exude a radiant, magnetic confidence that attracted positivity and abundance into my life...that only grows brighter as time passes and it looks and feels like I'm aging backwards.

In the hopes of inspiring a similar transformation in you, I'm excited to share the secrets that I discovered on my journey that helped me go from that insecure girl to the goddess you see today:

Secret #1: Be Authentic

It can be tempting to mold ourselves into what we think others want us to be, but true confidence comes from embracing who we are at our core. By being unapologetically authentic and expressing ourselves without fear of judgment, we radiate a frequency that attracts positive people and opportunities aligned with our true selves.

To put it plainly without sugarcoating or protecting anyone's feelings...

BE who your SOUL came here to be instead of who you think you should be to be liked or to fit in. Fu*k what people think, live your life for you, and express yourself without fear of judgement. Don't hide your truth. When you're being authentic, you exude a confidence that radiates a frequency which attracts positive people and opportunities into your life that match that same vibration & not the mask you were wearing.

Secret #2: Think & Speak Positively (especially about yourself)

Our thoughts and words have a powerful impact on our confidence and the energy we attract into our lives. By replacing negative self-talk with positive affirmations and focusing on gratitude, we can raise our vibration and attract abundance and positivity. 

Ripping off the band-aid...

Stop assuming the worst and avoid talking shit about yourself to yourself - and about other people (it isn't useful or cute). When you notice negative self-talk, challenge it by asking yourself if it's actually true or if you're being mean to yourself. Look for evidence that contradicts your negative thoughts and reframe them into positive affirmations. Quit complaining! Find the good, be grateful, and expect shit to work out!

Secret #3: Take Care of YOU

Nourish your vessel with life force energy (real food), take time to be in nature, meditate, move your body, and do things that bring you joy to connect your body to your mind and soul. Taking care of yourself (self-care and self-love) generates a frequency that radiates joy and loving energy... and it is contagious.

Telling it like it is...

Put yourself first. This is a non-negotiable. You're so good at taking care of everyone else and you don't treat yourself with the same level of care you do for the love of your life or loved ones. Stop self-sacrificing and putting everyone's needs before yours. Don't use time or lack of resources as a reason for why you can't do what you'd like to do, or even pursue your dreams.
It's not selfish to take care of YOU, or put yourself first...it's actually a disservice to everyone when you don't. Everyone is better off when you are feeling and doing well...because energy is contagious.

Secret #4: Own Your Shit

Being personal responsible for our thoughts, feelings, and actions is key to developing confidence and self-respect. Rather than blaming external factors for our circumstances, we can empower ourselves by acknowledging our role in creating our reality.

Keeping it real...

Stop being a victim. When you don't make excuses or blame something outside of you, and you own your sh*t - you'll feel proud of yourself, gain self-respect, be in integrity, and in congruence with what you say you want, and who you say you want to be =  confidence.

Secret #5: Let Your Word Be as Solid as Gold

When we make commitments to ourselves and others, it's crucial to follow through on them. By keeping our word, we build self-trust and self-confidence, which radiates a unique and rare magnetism that attracts positivity and success.

For real though...

When you say you're going to do something DO IT. Keep your word, especially to yourself. Stop letting yourself off the hook. When you keep your word to yourself, you will build self-trust, self-belief, self-esteem, and self-confidence. Being proud of this emits a unique and rare magnetism that is attractive on many levels.

Secret #6: Allow Yourself to Receive

Learning to receive compliments, help, and support from others is essential to building confidence and abundance in our lives. By graciously accepting the Universe's gifts, we open ourselves up to even more opportunities and positivity.

It has too be said...

When someone compliments you, don't reject it or brush it off! Instead, get in the habit of replying, "thank you, I receive that" Just the same, if someone offers you help or to pay for something, accept it. The Universe is literally trying to give you things and you're like, "nah, I'm good" So why would you manifest what you want if you're constantly rejecting gifts and support?

I hope my secrets resonate with you and help you on your journey to developing a magnetic confidence that attracts all the positivity and prosperity that you deserve.

Please share this post with someone who may benefit from these tips, and let me know in the comments which of these secrets speaks to your soul!